Questions to Ask Kids

How to Connect with Your Kids After School: Ask These Questions to Build Stronger Relationships!

I want to chat about something that has become a special part of my after school routine – asking questions!

As mamas, the hours after school are usually focused on shuffling to activities, tackling homework, and getting dinner on the table. It’s so easy for it to become a task-oriented blur. But taking time to actually ask our kids questions about their day can make such a difference!

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In today’s post, I’ll share how a simple “How was your day?” unlocks so many benefits – from deepening your bond to reducing after school meltdowns. I’ll give examples of my favorite open-ended questions to ask based on different ages and stages.

These after school questions don’t have to be specifically about school or the super deep metaphysical kind either! I love to throw in some funny ones like “would you rather” or “this or that” style questions. While they may be silly, they really do help to loosen my child up after a long day of school and get them talking. And let’s be honest, a belly laugh is good for everyone!

You’ll see why it’s worth carving out 5-10 minutes for quality questioning when those backpacks get dropped at the door. Let’s bring more meaning to the mach-speed hours after school!

funny questions to ask kids. Mom and daughter laughing together

Funny Questions to Ask Kids

While open-ended questions are so important, silly and funny questions can also light up their faces during that witching hour.

Asking funny questions shows our kids that mom is tuning in for a real conversation, not just going through the motions. A little humor and goofiness gives them our full attention. Laughing together releases endorphins and reduces any post-school stress!

Here are 10 of my favorite funny questions to mix in:

  • If you could have a superpower, what would it be?
  • What’s the grossest thing you saw today?
  • Who would win in a fight – a taco or a burrito?
  • What’s your best joke?
  • If I turned into a frog, what would you do?
  • What would happen if kids ruled the world?
  • If you were principal for a day, what rules would you make?
  • What’s the weirdest food you can think of?
  • If aliens came to your class, what would you do?
  • What’s the funniest thing that happened today?

This or That Questions For Kids

Another way I like to keep things lively is by asking simple but engaging “this or that” questions.

These silly questions force kids to make a choice between two options. It really gets their minds working and shows that mom wants their unique opinions! Plus, they’re easy to come up with on the fly.

Here are 10 fun “this or that” questions to try:

  • Pizza or tacos?
  • Swimming pool or bouncy house?
  • Star Wars or Harry Potter?
  • Cookies or ice cream?
  • Beach or mountains?
  • Dinosaurs or dragons?
  • Cats or dogs?
  • Red or blue?
  • Super strength or invisibility?
  • Hugs or high fives?

The light debate and decision making is great for their critical thinking skills. And you just might learn their surprising preferences! Tap into “this or that” questions when you need some quick after school fun.

kids running after school

“What is Your Favorite…” Questions

Another great question style to try -“what is your favorite?” questions. Kids love sharing their opinions on their favorites! These are also super easy to come up with on the fly!

Asking about your child’s favorites shows you are interested in who they are becoming and what brings them joy. It also sparks their memory and gets them reflecting.

Some fun “what’s your favorite?” questions:

  • What’s your favorite food?
  • What’s your favorite animal?
  • What’s your favorite toy?
  • What’s your favorite book?
  • What’s your favorite TV show?
  • What’s your favorite song?
  • What’s your favorite thing you did today?
  • What’s your favorite sport?
  • What’s your favorite thing to do outside?
  • What’s your favorite thing to do with friends?

You’ll probably get the most excitement from questions about their changing favorites – foods, toys, shows. But asking consistently shows you care! And you may be surprised by their responses when really pondering their favorites.

Let’s Get Deep Questions

As mamas, we know our kids have so much going on under the surface. Taking time for “let’s get deep” questions opens meaningful conversations and insight into their inner worlds.

Some thought-provoking questions to try:

  • What made you smile today?
  • If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?
  • What was the most fun thing you did today? Why?
  • What is something you learned today?
  • If you could grow up to be famous, what would it be for?
  • What is your biggest dream?
  • What was something nice someone did for you today?
  • What are you proud of yourself for?
  • What’s something you hope happens tomorrow? Why?

Having a real heart-to-heart, even for a few minutes, can mean so much. Let those deep chats nurture your bond!

After School Questions

  • Who did you sit with at lunch? What did you talk about?
  • What was your favorite part of your day?
  • What was the worst part of your day?
  • What did you have for lunch? (If it was a hot lunch day.)
  • What did you do and who did you play with at recess and lunch?
  • Tell me something new you learned today.
  • Did anything special happen today?
  • How was (enter a friend’s name) day? Did you two play together today?
  • Did your teacher read a book today? What was it about?
  • What are you doing in class tomorrow?